I could spend my entire life doing all of my favorite things, yet they would matter little if I never connected with anyone.
I get lost creating. I become consumed assigning emotions to shapes and turning journal entries into titles. There are countless hours poured into each piece, numerous evenings that suddenly become early mornings spent working, and immeasurable moments of self doubt. To share these pieces? To stand beside them and say, “Hey world, these are my struggles, triumphs and fears” is the bravest I’ve ever been.
Artists are givers. They give an attempt at “finding the right words”. They give glimpses to what feelings look like. They give reassurance that, no, you are no alone. We need more of that in today’s world. We’re so plugged in, and yet so disconnected. We’re surrounded by instagram pictures of a delicious dinner and Facebook photos of honeymoons and vacations. But what about a black and white photo that tugs our heartstrings? We read statuses and group texts; but what about sonnets that make us cling more tightly to our loves? What about poems that help us understand grief? And we all know that some of the best songs are the honest and sad ones. (ummm helloooo Taylor Swift)!
There is so much beauty in our authentic moments. We offer so much compassion and empathy when we let our guards down. We radiate so brightly when we genuinely applaud ourselves. We create ripples that become waves when we put our real self forward.
What would it look like if we all showed up with the vulnerability of artists? What would it look like to say, “I created this.This is my truest, most authentic self and I want to share it with you so you know you aren’t alone”.
The word “tribe” has been crossing my path a lot lately; in fact I heard it twice today before 10am. So, it has me thinking…why? Why do I keep seeing and hearing this word?
What is your tribe? Do you have one? Is it a sports team? Is it a girl gang? Is it your lunch table? A sales team? I’ve realized that my tribe is full of yogis, artists, givers, tough chicks, passion pursuers, writers, and activists. Your tribe members don’t need to all be the same. You don’t have to have the same hobbies or the same sense of style. Don’t stress- you don’t even have to have coordinating halloween costumes. You do, however, have to show up for each other. You have to be honest and trustworthy. You have to stick to your promises- especially the pinkie promises. And a theme song never hurts. So.. who is your tribe? Let them know.
Sometimes I lie in bed awake with the thrill of impending adventure. Life is happening now and at times it’s hard to pause for fear of missing a fraction of the beauty. I’ll tell you a secret… when I’m alone I often catch myself throwing my hands up in the air and closing my eyes to surrender to all of it.. the good and the bad. I want to always be able to remember this roller coaster. I want a moment that stands still and unchanging while existing outside of an iPhone. I miss photos. I miss taping squares of nostalgia into my journal.
So yesterday I whipped out the camera. I’m ready to capture each blessing. I’m ready to remember each challenge. I’m ready to fill my walls with frames and thumbtacks. Look around… your life belongs in a magazine. Can’t you see it?
This. This is going on my bathroom mirror. (That’s where I write the words that melt my heart… in lipstick… which ruins my lipstick.) You all know that I have zero problems when it comes to kicking my own butt…. the gentleness is where I struggle. But this quote makes a good point- I’m doing the best that I can. Those are the words I’m going to whisper to myself the next time I file a form incorrectly. Or the next time I fall short on my to-do list. Or the next time my words come out wrong. I’m doing the best that I can.
Where can you offer yourself some gentleness? I often hear people apologizing for not making it to yoga in awhile. But each day is a new day, so forget the days you didn’t make it, and feel good for showing up. Be kind to yourself, and you’ll give other people permission to do the same.
I’m stepping back and holding the reigns a little bit looser this weekend. Usually, my priority list looks something like this:
1. Pineapple Studios
2. Are there any snacks around here?
But this weekend I’m rearranging some things and putting my focus on my loved ones. This weekend looks like this:
1. Spend time with the people that keep the good vibes on repeat.
2. Me time and House projects
This weekend I’ll be celebrating my sister’s 21st birthday as well as giving her a zillion bear hugs because she is leaving for Australia. Then my most sunshiny friend will be moving in and filling my house with giggles. And there is an I AM THAT GIRL meeting on the calendar which always leaves me feeling an overwhelming amount of “muchness”. That’s the only way I know how to describe that feeling of abundance.
I’m wishing you all a happy weekend filled with many moments of presence and fulfillment. Let yourself become full with the things that matter and the people that love you. Give yourself a break so that you can recharge, refuel, and get back out there. That’s my plan this weekend. xoxo
Expectations… they get me every time. It can be disheartening when the people closest to you don’t show up like you want them to. And even harder still when you feel that throws your relationship off balance. But it all comes back to your own expectations for that person or situation and I’m learning that it’s important to let go of our preconceived ideas of how others should behave. We can only control ourselves and even though that can be tough, it can also be a little bit relieving!
Despite knowing it’s importance, self care doesn’t come easy and requires effort on my part. But by making more of an effort, I’m beginning to realize the truth to Shakespeare’s words. Here is a list of advice to help you avoid the Heartaches of Expectation:
- Make sure you are expressing yourself. No one can read your mind or magically know when you need help. If you need someone to be there for you.. tell them!
- Try not to take on more than you can handle alone. Avoid planning tasks or events that force you to rely on others in order to get them done. That way, if you unexpectedly find yourself having to work on something alone, you know it’s within your ability. AND you can feel good about accomplishing a tough project! PLUS, on the flip side, when you do receive help, it feels like a treat and the workload is pleasantly lighter than you’d expect!
- When you can’t follow #2, refer back to #1. Sometimes you just find yourself in a task that is too big for your own two hands. And that’s ok!! Just refer back to #1 and be sure to EXPRESS how much help you need and the way you are feeling. Make sure people understand what you are asking of them and what you need. Remember that no one can know how you are feeling unless you tell them!
- Be aware of the relationships that take more than they give. It doesn’t mean these relationships are bad, but perhaps these are the relationships that aren’t meeting your expectations. Sometimes simply becoming aware can set you free.
- Take care of yourself and practice gratitude. Expect a little less and give thanks a little more.
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